Hello again! I know I just posted, but I have been working on that post for 3 days because I either got tired or I was too busy coughing and still recovering from bronchitis. But I have recently been inspired by a number of posts and people and media and oh my gosh I have been dying to do this post. I have been seeing so many people saying “I hate this. I hate that. I dislike this person.” and so on and so forth. I will even admit that I have those days as well, but I want to share with you guys the things that help me smile and laugh and live every day with the least amount of negative thoughts. It may seem hard at times and you may have your own ways as well, but this is purely suggestions and advice, so you can use them to your own discretion. With that said, here is my advice on being happy.
So, as you all know I suffer from stress and heavy anxiety. I think about things way to much and think way too far in the future instead of focusing on today or the present. I would constantly focus on other people rather than myself. I would constantly say “I hate this. I hate that. Why isn’t it the way I want it? I hate life.” It wasn’t until I turned 17 when I could finally refocus everything and work on my own happiness. Here is how I did that:
I am one of those people who dwells on something that happened years ago. One thing I have learned to do is to look away from the past. I recently read a quite from Lindy of BubzBeauty; “Your eyes are designed to be at the front of your head, not the back. So why live life constantly looking back?” Looking back will deter you from looking at what you have today. The blessings you currently have are what are important rather than the suffering or the struggles you’ve had in the past. As someone who has had a past of being bullied and sexually harrassed. I continued to look back and let those things affect me as a person. Now, I am focused on my present and I am looking forward to what blessings life has to offer.
Everyone has something unique about their personality. And someone is always going to have something negative to say about it. Don’t let their comments or actions keep you from being YOU. I am constantly told that I have a “wierd” personality because I don’t follow norms. I am the girl no one would think to even have a tattoo; the moment they see that I have two tattoos they immediately think it’s wierd and criticize me for it. I have the wierdest sense of humor and I can act like a total dork in public and that is completely normal for me. But to others, they find it awkward and will make their snoody comments. Do not take those to heart. Be who you are and make no apologies for it. Don’t fake a personality because that is what people expect. Be yourself. For yourself. There are going to be people who adore you for your true self. It may not seem like it now, but trust me. Once you give up on acting “normal” and start being you, a heavy weight will disappear from your shoulders.
I cannot stress enough how much this actually helps. And to prove it does, scientific research proves that if you smile more, you will actually feel happy. It will improve your mental state and actually spread happiness to others. Whether it’s smiling to yourself or to someone else, FIND LITTLE REASONS TO SMILE. Things that make me smile are autumn leaves, Anthony snoring, my puppy Cricket, and a great cup of Starbucks Green Tea Latte. Do you ever remember the saying “It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile”? It’s true, so stop using those uneccessary muscles and SMILE.
And last, but not least (and a picture is not going to do it justice) is to appreciate what you have. When you focus on what other people have and become envious, you lose focus of the things you already have. I used to think that I need designer things to be pretty or to be happy. I would blow through my money and I still wasn’t thrilled. Finally I told myself, I’m not one to need designer brands. I’m not a materialistic person. Little things like movies, food, and even a vacation to my hometown…those are the things that make me happy. My family, my boyfriend, my best friends…they make me happy. Not any designer purse or shoes can replace that feeling. No amount of money can replace that feeling. Don’t go by what the media tells you to buy or what they think would make you happy. You know who you are and what brings that feeling to your heart. If you like designer brands, go for it! If you’re like me and treasure simpler things, who’s to stop you? Don’t envy what others have. There is a reason why you have what you have. And always remember that there are people who would do anything to have the little things you have. So be thankful and appreciative and cherish all the small things and moments.
OKAY. Finally. Like I said in my previous post, this post has been on my heart and if it sounds like rambling…I’m sorry. When it comes to posts like this, I tend to get just a tad carried away and sometimes it turns to rambling. I tried to prevent that in this post, but just in case; Sorry!!! I hope you all found this post helpful and I would like to thank Wen from Wen McNally Photography for the pictures! These are actually from my senior year of high school when I had long hair…so nostalgic right? But they were taken during an important, life-changing time of my life so I thought they were appropriate. Anyways, have an amazing weekend everyone! Tomorrow I am going to try and go back to the gym…although I am already dreading it. But be safe and stay blessed.
Thanks for reading~! ❤